Honored

A month ago I had one of the greatest honors of my career/life as a pastor. One of the high school students that I had pastored through all of her high school years asked me to perform her wedding. She and her fiancé had been dating for years and had actually met at a combined youth event that I had done with another youth pastor in the same city. She…

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5 things I learned about marriage at the Tough Mudder

  I’ve done team-building exercises for years with both youth and adults of all ages. The results of doing things that are challenging in either physical or mental ways and having to accomplish them as a team is pretty incredible.   Those involved usually walk away with an increased degree of connection and an unspoken and innate awareness that the people they are working with are on their team and…

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Some thoughts on Reconciliation

If there is anything pivotal to the Christian faith its got to be the concept of reconciliation. I was recently considering the concept and its application to my life. Its clearly outlined for us in 2 Cor. 5:16-21; 16 So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. 17 Therefore, if anyone…

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Shepherding your family…

I had a chance to speak at a local church a couple of weeks ago and if you are interested you are welcome to listen! I love the image of a Shepherd, admittedly that could be because of who I am, its kind of a natural draw and connection for me. The challenge for me and all of us, is how are we going to shepherd our families. After all, we…

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Selfish leadership…

False authority…

I was sent link to this blog and I have to say that I was not surprised in any way by the story. Simply because even at a distance I’ve noticed the things that the story outlines, Driscoll doesn’t hide much but at the same time there are parts of this story that I guess were more surprising than I would have thought. I remember seeing his video with Chan where he basically attacks him for building up his church to be lead by leaders who have been built up together. I sat in a service with a youth group years ago where he proceeded to curse and completely confuse and turn off our entire group. I also have a handbook on sexuality from his church where he states overtly that he believes masturbation to be an expression of homosexuality (imagine the mass confusion if our teenage population if we were to spread something so silly like that) I’ve seen sermon after sermon filled with guilt trips and mandates. But if I were under a microscope like he is I’m sure I’d have a lot of criticism too. 

I remember being drawn to his concept of masculine faith, and as I searched it out I began to notice that his approach was dangerous. I felt this way because he tapped into the male need to rise up and embrace testosterone and lead, but he didn’t leave it at lead. Instead he took it too a level of control. 

If you have been around the church for long then you know that historically the controlling church parents of our youth are exactly what pushed many away from the church in the first place. It was NOT a model that was effectively passed down to the next generation. It is incredibly clear to me that MarkD’s approach will have the exact same effect on the children of these “masculine” men of faith that he is guilt tripping into action. Admittedly it is an easier faith, one where we control and direct, but not the faith of reliance and submission and service that Jesus exemplified. 

The thing is, that I know incredible numbers of people who have had similar experiences in their own churches. They are hurting and exiled themselves, if only all of them had been able to find that “joy.” 

I am posting this link because I think its an incredible story that all of us should learn from and take note of I am conflicted though, the publishing of this document and blog leaves me with stirred thoughts and emotions. It is appropriate to do this? And I suppose in this context, given that the process itself was so public would add to the validity, either way I appreciate their own wrestling through the process of whether or not to share and admire their courage in doing so.

I’ve heard incredible stories that have made me frustrated at degrees that really make it difficult for me to justify staying quiet… but I suppose I’ve been in similar positions where others have asked me why I’ve kept quiet too. 

Either way, this is an incredible epidemic in North American churches. We are to build each other up and respect one another and NOONE has special ability to hear God above anyone else. But now I’m getting ahead of myself.

Take your time and pray deeply through this and consider how it might affect you, perhaps as a leader acting like this, or perhaps as someone longing to be free to follow God and free to be released from the false leadership above you… 

http://joyfulexiles.com/

 

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Family Discipleship…

Recently I’ve had some interesting opportunities as a Father… Not being attached to a church on sunday mornings has given me the chance to experiment with some family church services. My kids love it and call me Pastor Dad, we sing and play and learn together in ways that bring us closer together, its been great. For the first number of weeks they seemed to enjoy “family church” so much…

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Authority…?

“Men who speak endlessly about authority only prove that they have none. And Kings who make speeches on submission only betray twin fears in their hearts: they are not certain they are really true leaders sent of God. And they live in mortal fear of a rebellion.” -Edwards Although their are many things about his book and perspective I value, there are also many points that feel very one dimensional…

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