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Accountability

  • Podcast - Face Time vs Screen Time: Helping kids with an electronic-digital balance

    The DFR Podcast team discusses and gives tools for Helping our kids balance digital devices in their lives. Podcast #65: Face Time vs. Screen Time – Helping Kids Achieve Electronic-Digital Balance   http://traffic.libsyn.com/doingfamilyright/DFR65.m4a   Originally posted on HERE on the DFR site.   For more info follow these links: 6 Step guide to Social Media...

  • rTribe - The Recovery Tool for Porn Addiction

         rTribe The Powerful Porn Addiction Recovery Tool   rTribe is a Porn Addiction Recovery app that helps in incredible ways. rTribe will help you: Become self-aware Use your phone for positive things Connect with a community of people that can support you Become excited and even a little addicted to staying clean Be...

Camp

  • 7 Reasons to send your kids to camp this summer

    7 Reasons to Send Your Kids to Camp this Summer I remember the first time we sent our kids to camp. They were 7 and 8 and I was nervous. I knew that there were adults overseeing things, but teenaged cabin leaders made me wonder how secure and safe my kids would feel. I was...

  • Summer Camp, Your Child's First Taste of Their Own Faith

    There is something deeply and wonderfully special about camp.   There are the incredible experiences and friends, the opportunities to try out things you could never do at home and even the awesome spiritual lessons, leaders and mentors that kids encounter.   But there is something more!

  • Speaking Life - A New Year's Challenge for a Family Mission

    As many of you know we had an incredibly busy summer. Only being home for less than two weeks all summer was an adventure, but it was also kind of hard on our kids. As much as they got incredible experiences of being at different camps and doing things like sailing and rock climbing that...

  • A Summer Almost Beyond Words

    Imagine a summer filled with amazing weather, tons of camping and driving all over BC… for some of you that sounds amazing, for others not so much. Now that I have had a week or so to process our summer, I can honestly say that it was beyond anything I could have imagined. Watching the...

Christianity

  • 3 Reasons Doing “Devotions” with Your Spouse is Difficult and 6 Ways to Help

    3 Reasons Doing “Devotions” With Your Spouse is Difficult And 6 Ways to Help 3 Reasons Doing “Devotions” with your spouse is difficult and 6 ways to help   Living a mutually beneficial life of devotion to Jesus as a couple is a beautiful thing to see. I’ve seen many couples do this and asked some...

  • The Myth that Marriage Completes You

    Marriage Won’t Complete You Addressing the “Marriage Will Complete You” Myth   We have likely all heard it before, the classic scene in the movie “Jerry Maguire” where Tom cruise tells Renee Zellweger “You complete me.” It’s this moment in the movie where everything seems right again. The two main characters have finally gotten their...

  • Redefining Boredom Part 4 - Opportunity for Spiritual Growth

      Boredom as Opportunity for Spiritual Growth Redefining Boredom Part 4 Boredom = Time for spiritual development and relationship with Jesus Boredom, the word and the typical feelings related to the word, is starting to become a word with positive associated feelings for me. Instead of the usually associated feeling of emptiness and needing something...

  • Redefining Boredom Part 3 - Opportunity for Creativity

    Boredom is an Opportunity for Creativity Redefining Boredom Part 3 Boredom is Opportunity for Creativity – Redefining Boredom Part 3   For Part 1 click here For Part 2 click here For Part 4 click here   In my pursuit to change our response to the word “boredom” in our home, I continually find more...

Family Discipleship

  • Podcast - Face Time vs Screen Time: Helping kids with an electronic-digital balance

    The DFR Podcast team discusses and gives tools for Helping our kids balance digital devices in their lives. Podcast #65: Face Time vs. Screen Time – Helping Kids Achieve Electronic-Digital Balance   http://traffic.libsyn.com/doingfamilyright/DFR65.m4a   Originally posted on HERE on the DFR site.   For more info follow these links: 6 Step guide to Social Media...

  • What to do if your child is into Porn - Podcast

    A Parent’s Response To their Children’s Porn Use As parents it can be VERY hard to navigate different things with our children. Few things can cause us fear and trauma like finding out one of our children is looking at pornography. The podcast attached will help give you the words and a plan of action...

  • Engaging in Relationships with our Children with Melissa McVety

      Its far too easy to get preoccupied with “Doing” daily tasks and the outward behaviour of our children where we lose sight of who are kids are, and the incredible value of quiet time and “being” in their presence. This is a video clip from our full talk at the Christian Homeschoolers Education Conference...

  • Redefining Boredom - "boredom" is an Opportunity for Relationship with Our Children

    Redefining Boredom Lets learn to hear the word “boredom” as a positive instead of a negative! When our kids say they are bored, lets see it as an opportunity to connect with them and to build into our relationship with them. This is a video clip from our full talk at the Christian Homeschoolers Education...

Leadership

  • Rogue One: A Star Wars Movie "Sticking it Out When Things Go Bad"

      Rogue One: A Star Wars Movie “I’m not used to people sticking around when things go bad.” “Welcome home” I took my family to see “Rogue One: A Star Wars Story” and it was amazing! Don’t worry I won’t spoil anything for you, but I will say that you should see the movie.  ...

  • A Story of Forgiveness and Blessing

    A Story of Forgiveness and Blessing   I’ve thought a lot about forgiveness and how important it is. I’m not sure how many people you have met that seem to seethe with hatred and bitterness, who can’t seem to talk about anything else but a or person that they have a major issue with, rehashing...

  • Rethinking "Family" This Christmas Season

    Rethinking “Family” This Christmas Season   For most of us, when we think of Christmas, we think of family. When I was growing up I remember looking forward to the break, but even better was the opportunity to be with family. Sometimes we would drive to Toronto (from Windsor) to spend time with my cousins....

  • 5 Things I Learned about Marriage at the Tough Mudder

    I’ve done team-building exercises for years with both youth and adults of all ages. The results of doing things that are challenging in either physical or mental ways and having to accomplish them as a team is pretty incredible. Those involved usually walk away with an increased degree of connection and an unspoken and innate...

Marriage

  • The Myth that Marriage Completes You

    Marriage Won’t Complete You Addressing the “Marriage Will Complete You” Myth   We have likely all heard it before, the classic scene in the movie “Jerry Maguire” where Tom cruise tells Renee Zellweger “You complete me.” It’s this moment in the movie where everything seems right again. The two main characters have finally gotten their...

  • 4 Unexpected Ways to Put Children First: Hint- It’s All About Your Marriage

      4 Unexpected Ways to Put Your Children First Hint – Its all about your marriage The second highest demographic for divorce is people who are married 25-30 years!   Does this shock you?   We have couples regularly telling us stories about how disconnected they are, how they don’t date anymore and in some...

Melissa's Corner

  • Engaging in Relationships with our Children with Melissa McVety

      Its far too easy to get preoccupied with “Doing” daily tasks and the outward behaviour of our children where we lose sight of who are kids are, and the incredible value of quiet time and “being” in their presence. This is a video clip from our full talk at the Christian Homeschoolers Education Conference...

  • Christmas Nostalgia: A Different Kind of Holiday Blues

    Christmas Blues a Different Kind of Christmas Nostalgia Do you ever feel overwhelmed with varying emotions at Christmas time? On one hand you have a twinge of excitement, while at the same time you find yourself frequently holding back tears? Those holiday “Hallmark” Christmas movies can often cause this

Ministry Resources

  • The McVety Summer Ministry Update

    Imagine a summer filled with amazing weather, tons of camping and driving all over BC… for some of you that sounds amazing, for others not so much. Now that I have had a week or so to process our summer, I can honestly say that it was beyond anything I could have imagined. Watching the...

  • Our Summer Ministry and Prayer Update

    “Tough” Mudder update – a hypothermic 5 hour race. 6 weeks of camp and some prayer requests… click here for all the details along with a report from our last month or two. 

  • 4 Ways Youth Ministries Can Respond to the Current Culture Shift with Teens

    I recently wrote a post where I describe some of the things that are standing out to me in relation to youth culture’s recent shift as evidenced by the apps and websites that they choose to use. My conclusion was that “we can see that there is clearly an overt shift in teen culture from the...

  • Parents: Responding To Your Child's Porn Problem

    Many parents believe that the character of their children will protect them from the dangers of the online world. Unfortunately the usual reality is that the online world bombards them and because of hormones and peer influence they don’t stand a chance. Their character may be solid and they may even be able to avoid...

Ministry Update

  • McVety Prayer and Ministry Update - June 2017

    First and foremost… We would like to say Thank You! Melissa and I want to sincerely express our continual gratitude for your incredible support and love as we work in the trenches with hurting couples and individuals through our ministry with DFR.   We honestly couldn’t do what we do without you!   We realize...

  • October-December 2016 Ministry update

    October-December 2016 Ministry update October-December 2016 Ministry update We have been a little behind with our ministry update this semester, our apologies. Here is our latest update with a review from our summer and leading into the winter season.   God continues to bless us as we serve Him and follow His lead! This past...

  • McVety Summer 2016 Schedule and Prayer Requests

    Click here for our FULL update letter   How you can pray for us: For balance in our lives as we wear all the different hats in our daily lives. For God’s guidance and our reliance on Him daily. Finances; God continues to provide but we still see the need to be good stewards and...

  • McVety Family Ministry Update and Christmas Letter

    We had an incredible year! I think its fair to say that we are even Living the Dream!  Our ministry year has included:

Porn Recovery

  • The Impact of Keeping Secrets and Not Confessing

      The Impact of Secrets and Not Confessing Keeping secrets and not confessing when we mess up and hurt someone is dangerous and really hurts and hinders our ability to grow and heal. Dave uses an illustration with rats to describe the impact of waiting or even choosing not to share and confess in those...

  • rTribe - The Recovery Tool for Porn Addiction

         rTribe The Powerful Porn Addiction Recovery Tool   rTribe is a Porn Addiction Recovery app that helps in incredible ways. rTribe will help you: Become self-aware Use your phone for positive things Connect with a community of people that can support you Become excited and even a little addicted to staying clean Be...

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