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Accountability

  • Podcast - Face Time vs Screen Time: Helping kids with an electronic-digital balance

    The DFR Podcast team discusses and gives tools for Helping our kids balance digital devices in their lives. Podcast #65: Face Time vs. Screen Time – Helping Kids Achieve Electronic-Digital Balance   http://traffic.libsyn.com/doingfamilyright/DFR65.m4a   Originally posted on HERE on the DFR site.   For more info follow these links: 6 Step guide to Social Media Introduction for you children Dr. Dave’s Cell Phone Sanity, a Graduated System for Cell Phone...

  • rTribe - The Recovery Tool for Porn Addiction

         rTribe The Powerful Porn Addiction Recovery Tool   rTribe is a Porn Addiction Recovery app that helps in incredible ways. rTribe will help you: Become self-aware Use your phone for positive things Connect with a community of people that can support you Become excited and even a little addicted to staying clean Be encouraged daily with scripture and inspirational quotes    

  • Porn Addiction Recovery Tool: Always on Guard and what that looks like

    Porn Addiction Recovery Tool: Always on Guard and what that looks like   Often we have trouble understanding what it means to always be on Guard. (1 Cor. 16:13) When in recovery it’s easy to get complacent and feel good when temptation is low and we feel like “it must be over” but in reality we need to constantly be aware of our state of mind and heart. I believe...

  • Porn Addiction Recovery Tool: Imagining the End and Reprogramming the Brain

    Recovering from porn addiction is difficult and takes time. It actually requires a full reconstruction of the brain’s activities and habits. This tool describes one that deeply impacts the processing as well as promoting personal self awareness.  

Camp

  • Speaking Life - A New Year's Challenge for a Family Mission

    As many of you know we had an incredibly busy summer. Only being home for less than two weeks all summer was an adventure, but it was also kind of hard on our kids. As much as they got incredible experiences of being at different camps and doing things like sailing and rock climbing that others may never be able to do, they were worn out and tired by the...

  • A Summer Almost Beyond Words

    Imagine a summer filled with amazing weather, tons of camping and driving all over BC… for some of you that sounds amazing, for others not so much. If you’ve never been camping before then I encourage you to do so. There are lots of sites like campingfunzone.com available online that tell you exactly what to take with you in order to have a fun trip. Even if you don’t like...

Christianity

  • Balancing Your Emotions With Truth

    Have you ever heard a statement like: “The devil wants you to pay attention to your feelings, Jesus wants you to pay attention to the truth”? Or maybe you’ve noticed that our culture can focus so much on making sure everyone feels good, that it limits our ability to speak truth, causing some to wonder if emotions are something to be dismissed or belittled.  As a counsellor I hear comments...

  • Obedience

      Obedience… I was struck recently by something that maybe should be a given, but I don’t think it really is in our culture. The issue that spoke to me was that of obedience, obedience specifically as it relates to God and my relationship with Him. Obedience Is not about “Do this or else” but an offer to “please stay close and safe”   I was struck recently by something...

  • Audio: Teaching Our Children the Value of Quiet (and boredom)

    Teaching our Children the Value of Quiet (and Boredom too)  Melissa and Dave’s Keynote address #2 at the BC Christian Home Educators Conference I believe that there is incredible potential for us to grow our children and a vital need for us to teach them how to embrace and look for opportunity in times of rest, quiet and ESPECIALLY Boredom! Melissa and I shared about this at a recent homeschool...

  • Audio: The Impact of Rules with Relationships on our Faith and Parenting

    Click here to listen Rules – Relationship = Rebellion Exploring how rules impact our tendency as human beings to rebel – toward our parents and even towards God. Keynote address at CHEC (Christian Home Educators Conference)   For articles on this check out these links: The Heart of Discipline: The Principle of New Covenant Parenting – How Rules Relate to Rebellion Rules – Relationship = Rebellion : A Parenting Principle  

Family Discipleship

  • Balancing Your Emotions With Truth

    Have you ever heard a statement like: “The devil wants you to pay attention to your feelings, Jesus wants you to pay attention to the truth”? Or maybe you’ve noticed that our culture can focus so much on making sure everyone feels good, that it limits our ability to speak truth, causing some to wonder if emotions are something to be dismissed or belittled.  As a counsellor I hear comments...

  • Parenting: Laying a Foundation for Relationship and Self-Acceptance

      Laying the foundation your children need to develop and grow as God designed them to, isn’t something we always consider. In fact, often times I find myself sitting back and just being glad that my kids are doing what they “should” be doing or what they have been told to do. After all, why mess with something that isn’t broken, right? Well, unfortunately it isn’t that simple. Our children grow...

  • Obedience

      Obedience… I was struck recently by something that maybe should be a given, but I don’t think it really is in our culture. The issue that spoke to me was that of obedience, obedience specifically as it relates to God and my relationship with Him. Obedience Is not about “Do this or else” but an offer to “please stay close and safe”   I was struck recently by something...

  • Audio: Teaching Our Children the Value of Quiet (and boredom)

    Teaching our Children the Value of Quiet (and Boredom too)  Melissa and Dave’s Keynote address #2 at the BC Christian Home Educators Conference I believe that there is incredible potential for us to grow our children and a vital need for us to teach them how to embrace and look for opportunity in times of rest, quiet and ESPECIALLY Boredom! Melissa and I shared about this at a recent homeschool...

Leadership

  • Audio: Teaching Our Children the Value of Quiet (and boredom)

    Teaching our Children the Value of Quiet (and Boredom too)  Melissa and Dave’s Keynote address #2 at the BC Christian Home Educators Conference I believe that there is incredible potential for us to grow our children and a vital need for us to teach them how to embrace and look for opportunity in times of rest, quiet and ESPECIALLY Boredom! Melissa and I shared about this at a recent homeschool...

  • Audio: The Impact of Rules with Relationships on our Faith and Parenting

    Click here to listen Rules – Relationship = Rebellion Exploring how rules impact our tendency as human beings to rebel – toward our parents and even towards God. Keynote address at CHEC (Christian Home Educators Conference)   For articles on this check out these links: The Heart of Discipline: The Principle of New Covenant Parenting – How Rules Relate to Rebellion Rules – Relationship = Rebellion : A Parenting Principle  

  • Rogue One: A Star Wars Movie "Sticking it Out When Things Go Bad"

      Rogue One: A Star Wars Movie “I’m not used to people sticking around when things go bad.” “Welcome home” I took my family to see “Rogue One: A Star Wars Story” and it was amazing! Don’t worry I won’t spoil anything for you, but I will say that you should see the movie.   I was sitting and enjoying the story and characters as it filled in gaps to...

  • A Story of Forgiveness and Blessing

    A Story of Forgiveness and Blessing   I’ve thought a lot about forgiveness and how important it is. I’m not sure how many people you have met that seem to seethe with hatred and bitterness, who can’t seem to talk about anything else but a or person that they have a major issue with, rehashing the same thing over and over again?   I know I have met a few...

Marriage

  • Podcast - Technology's Attack on Marriage: Finding Wise Digital Boundaries

    The DFR team discusses the damage that the digital world can have on marriage and how to set up boundaries to keep your marriage safe. Technology’s Attack on Marriage – Finding Wise Digital Boundaries   http://traffic.libsyn.com/doingfamilyright/DFR71.m4a Podcast #71: Technology’s Attack on Marriage – Finding Wise Digital Boundaries   Originally posted on the DFR page HERE.  Follow this link to hear our podcast discussing the needed boundaries in our kids’ lives. 

  • Podcast - What Happens to Our Relationship When the Butterflies of Love Die?

    What happens to our relationship with the Butterflies of love die? Is it over – or is it part of the cycle of relationships? And can we get them back?   Join us on the DFR podcast as we discuss where to go from here – and if what “dead butterflies” mean for our relationships.     For Dave’s article on the same topic click here. or in my blog...

  • 3 Reasons Doing “Devotions” with Your Spouse is Difficult and 6 Ways to Help

    3 Reasons Doing “Devotions” With Your Spouse is Difficult And 6 Ways to Help 3 Reasons Doing “Devotions” with your spouse is difficult and 6 ways to help   Living a mutually beneficial life of devotion to Jesus as a couple is a beautiful thing to see. I’ve seen many couples do this and asked some of them how and if they do devotions together. Many do, and they enjoy the...

  • The Myth that Marriage Completes You

    Marriage Won’t Complete You Addressing the “Marriage Will Complete You” Myth   We have likely all heard it before, the classic scene in the movie “Jerry Maguire” where Tom cruise tells Renee Zellweger “You complete me.” It’s this moment in the movie where everything seems right again. The two main characters have finally gotten their priorities straight and have realized how much they need each other. The line is perfect...

Melissa's Corner

  • A Revelation on Stage; When the Holy Spirit Speaks to You as You Share with Others

    Melissa was speaking to a group of Women last weekend and she came home with a degree of excitement about something God had revealed to her as she was speaking. Although it may sound strange, there are incredible moments when we are speaking where God can actually speak a point of truth from our mouths that impacts our hearts in the exact moment that we say them. Melissa was sharing...

  • Erotica in the Bedroom Part 2

    Guest post: Part 2 of Erotica in the Bedroom from my wife Melissa.

Ministry Resources

  • Next Steps to Recovery from Pornography

  • The McVety Summer Ministry Update

    Imagine a summer filled with amazing weather, tons of camping and driving all over BC… for some of you that sounds amazing, for others not so much. Now that I have had a week or so to process our summer, I can honestly say that it was beyond anything I could have imagined. Watching the eyes of a child light up at the reality of who God is to them,...

  • Our Summer Ministry and Prayer Update

    “Tough” Mudder update – a hypothermic 5 hour race. 6 weeks of camp and some prayer requests… click here for all the details along with a report from our last month or two. 

  • 4 Ways Youth Ministries Can Respond to the Current Culture Shift with Teens

    I recently wrote a post where I describe some of the things that are standing out to me in relation to youth culture’s recent shift as evidenced by the apps and websites that they choose to use. My conclusion was that “we can see that there is clearly an overt shift in teen culture from the concept of figuring out who they are and expressing that online through profiles and blogs, to...

Ministry Update

  • A New Stage … A Big Shift for the McVety Family

    Following God’s Lead God has been amazing to us over our last 6 years with Doing Family Right. We moved all the way from Manitoba to be a part of a ministry where Melissa and I could speak, teach and share in ministry together. One where we could encourage marriages and build families highlighting and teaching people what it means to have God at the center of everything that matters...

  • Our Year End 2017 Ministry Update

    Click on an image or the link below to read our year end ministry update and family run down – it includes a special announcement too! Ministry Update 2017

  • McVety Prayer and Ministry Update - June 2017

    First and foremost… We would like to say Thank You! Melissa and I want to sincerely express our continual gratitude for your incredible support and love as we work in the trenches with hurting couples and individuals through our ministry with DFR.   We honestly couldn’t do what we do without you!   We realize it’s been a while since we sent an update and we wanted to give you...

  • October-December 2016 Ministry update

Porn Recovery

  • Next Steps to Recovery from Pornography

  • What to do if your child is into Porn - Podcast

    A Parent’s Response To their Children’s Porn Use As parents it can be VERY hard to navigate different things with our children. Few things can cause us fear and trauma like finding out one of our children is looking at pornography. The podcast attached will help give you the words and a plan of action if and when things happens in your home.     Podcast 61: What do Do...

  • Porn Addiction Recovery Video: Are You Visiting Your Dealer or Doctor?

    When you are hurt or sick, do you visit a drug dealer or a doctor? Check out the following video to see how this applies to recovering from porn addiction.

  • The Impact of Keeping Secrets and Not Confessing

      The Impact of Secrets and Not Confessing Keeping secrets and not confessing when we mess up and hurt someone is dangerous and really hurts and hinders our ability to grow and heal. Dave uses an illustration with rats to describe the impact of waiting or even choosing not to share and confess in those moments.  

Video Blog

  • Friendship Circles - Do you have frustrations with your friends? Maybe you haven't put them in the right circle

    Do you have frustrations with your friends? Do you find that they often don’t put in as much effort or time as you do? Are you feeling hurt and disillusioned by them? Friendship can be hard. Maybe you haven’t put them in the right circle – watch this to learn what might have happened.

  • Engaging in Relationships with our Children with Melissa McVety

      Its far too easy to get preoccupied with “Doing” daily tasks and the outward behaviour of our children where we lose sight of who are kids are, and the incredible value of quiet time and “being” in their presence https://apotekerendk.com/. This is a video clip from our full talk at the Christian Homeschoolers Education Conference For another quick video from the same conference click here: Boredom as time for...